A tribute to my friend who is coming out
Written by one of our own staff writers...
I've had this long-time friend since high school. We've known each other for 6 years. We went to the same high school and hung out in the same group of close friends. We went on many adventures together, and had a lot of awesome memories. She was one of my best friends in high school and was also my trustworthy adviser when it came to girls and relationships. Although I barely listened to any of her advice, it was heartwarming to know that she would always be by my side no matter what...
Things just drifted apart when she left our country to go studying abroad in the U.S. 5 years ago. If you've never had to leave your home country before, you wouldn't know how hard it is to keep up with old friends when you are about to have a totally new life with new people. You start having new responsibilities, new jobs, new classes, new schedules... Not to mention, we were living in two opposite time zones. She had always been the outgoing type, so most certainly she made a lot of friends very quickly. One year after she left, I bought a plane ticket to head to America. We were still living nowhere close to each other, but the distance didn't seem as bad anymore. We talked more often, and she gave me lots of tips and advice to blend in better to American culture. Nonetheless, I always think it was a miracle that we are still able to keep in touch, since distance can put such a burden on a relationship.
She came out as a bisexual on Facebook today by posting a cute picture of her and a rainbow flag. She never mentioned this to me before. It wasn't shocking, just surprising, and I am very happy for her.
It's a shame that our society is not yet totally accepting to LGBTQ people. If you turn on the news or check out online news, hate crimes are still going on. Regardless of the fact that we are all human beings with our own uniqueness, there are people think it is okay to put labels on others and discriminate based on those labels. I am sure it took a lot of courage to do what she did. It took a lot of courage to come out of the norms and say "Hey I am different!"
I always admire people who dare to be themselves and different from others. She is one of the strongest women I've known, and I am very proud of her.
To anyone out there thinking about coming out, you know you have my support. You know you have our support.
By Nam Le