Sex Ed for Teens: Why Being a Virgin is Cool!
You might completely disagree with me, but being a virgin can be kind of cool. Earlier this week I did something I haven't done since I was a kid: I went to church. I'm not religious, and I barely consider myself to be spiritual, but I've heard about churches like Hillsong so I wanted to see what the fuss is all about. My mom used to force me to go to this terrible church with her when I was a kid, and I only thought that it was terrible because I used to feel so judged. I only enjoyed going to church because I wanted to dip the bread in the cup of wine. That bread was sooo good. Has anyone else had bread like that? I would go back to my tiny terrible church just for that bread. I think I hated church so much when I was younger because I felt like I was being forced to believe in something, when I barely even knew who I was. I'm a rebel, and I don't like being told to believe in something that doesn't necessarily ring a bell with me.
But besides that point, I really enjoyed my time at this church. It's not like the kind of church you casually show up to and talk about your sins and religion. All of the attendees are super LA, super chic, and artsy- which I vibed with. The pastor was inspiring, and talked more about his life journey without a huge emphasis on his religious beliefs. I plan on going back, and I think that having some type of higher power to look up to can be incredibly beneficial and inspiring. Believing in yourself in crucial, but don't you deserve to have something else believe in you too?
When I left church with two of my girl friends, I started questioning them on their religious beliefs when it comes to sex. Can you have sex before marriage? Is it OK to sleep around with different partners? I was expecting both of them to say they were virgins, and I was surprised when they both said that them, along with their friends, have slept with different people and still show up to church and believe in their religion. Regardless of whether you want to have multiple different partners, or wait to be in a committed relationship to lose your virginity: this is your body, and you have every right to make this decision for yourself. If you do make the decision to have multiple partners, you should walk into every experience feeling comfortable and satisfied with who you are. There isn't enough time in the day to second guess yourself or question your decisions: be confident, be proud, and treat your body like the temple it is! We're all different, and make different decisions based on who we are and how we feel. If you make a mistake, don't beat yourself up. You're a human being, and you're learning as you get older. Respect your decisions!