As you get older, you get wiser. That’s one thing both of our moms have taught us: whether it’s about work or play, there are some things we wish we hadn’t spent so much time focusing on. Since we’ve both just hit the big 2-0, there are over 20 tips we have for growing up, following your dreams, and avoiding the urge to sweat the small stuff. Our top tips? Don’t be afraid of the word no, and definitely don’t let those two tiny letters deter you from following those damn dreams of yours. Let your family guide you, but don’t let them get in the way of your career and your drive. Oh, and don’t overthink the cupcake you want. If you want it, you deserve it. At the end of the day, will that piece of pizza or that cupcake really matter in a few days from now? Follow This is Life Unfiltered on Twitter at @tilupodcast and on Instagram at @thisislifepodcast. For more on Alexa, visit her blog at www.alifeinthefashionlane.com.